How to choose a good divorce lawyer for men

Are you a man seeking a divorce? Do you want to know how to find the best divorce lawyer for you, and then here is some advice on how to go about it:


Most importantly, you should choose the lawyer in whom you have the most confidence. Just like any other important decision, do shop around and consider your options. Don’t just go with the first option that presents itself. It may be your friends, family or colleagues have a divorce lawyer that they could recommend to you. Alternatively, you could approach your local Citizens Advice Bureau for suggestions. Try to get an idea of how firms are viewed by their peers and take a look at their clients’ testimonials.

Common goals

Another key consideration is to find a lawyer who shares your goals and approach to your divorce. First and foremost, you need to consider your priorities in this divorce, if it is to go through a process which is collaborative and constructive, then choose a solicitor who would take this approach. On the other hand, you might want a lawyer who takes a more aggressive approach. Once you’ve narrowed down your list of potential solicitors to perhaps three options, take the time to meet with them, ask them pertinent questions and get an idea of whether their approach and goals are in line with yours. 

Hand-in-hand with common goals is having a lawyer you can trust and with whom you feel comfortable. It is no good having a divorce lawyer you can’t speak frankly with, so find one with whom you’re comfortable communicating.


Double-check your lawyer's experience and qualifications. Given the speculation that men suffer gender bias in some court hearings, you may want to find a firm of solicitors experienced in representing men in divorces. Divorce lawyers for men is a specialist area, and you want to ensure you find the right lawyer to represent you. Take at look at the firm’s previous cases and their areas of expertise. Ask your prospective solicitors if they have experience of divorce and family law, in particular, if their expertise encompasses defending father’s and men’s rights in divorce cases.

Also, when looking for a solicitor, it’s crucial to establish that they are  registered with The Law Society, the Solicitors Regulation Authority and that they have adequate professional indemnity insurance.

Contact and time

Ensure the lawyer you choose, understands your expectations in terms of frequency of updates and ease of getting in touch. It’s important you have a lawyer you can get hold of when you need to. A good lawyer is not going to serve you well if they have no time for you or if you are always foisted onto a more junior colleague. Consider choosing a law firm that steps outside the traditional stuffy mould of solicitors firms and a lawyer whom you can reach directly.     

Expected timelines

When assessing which solicitor to choose; ask for a realistic picture of the likely time frames for your divorce case and when you might expect any major developments in the proceedings.


Another important consideration is your budget, so do take a look at what you can afford and ask for a realistic estimate of what your case would cost to represent.  

So there you have a checklist of factors to consider when choosing a good divorce lawyer to represent you, confidence, experience and common goals are all crucial to the choice you make.